One of the most exciting parts of pregnancy is getting to tell all of your loved ones the wonderful news! Although I found out I was pregnant on December 23rd, 2013, we decided to wait until I was 3 months pregnant before telling everyone. As many of you probably already know, it seems to be a mainstream agreement among doctors that during the first trimester you are more likely to miscarry than during any other trimester. We just couldn’t stand the thought of telling everyone the amazing news and then having to retract it and add all that extra disappointment and grief onto what we would already be feeling. So as hard as it was to keep that secret, we waited.
Our families are fairly spread out so we weren’t able to tell everyone all at the same time or in person and therefore had to come up with a few different ideas to make the announcement. We of course definitely wanted to tell our parents in person so we arranged to do that on a weekend in mid February of 2014. That was 2 weeks shy of the 3 month pregnancy mark but it was the only weekend we were going to be able to work out getting to see both sets of parents on the same weekend for quite some time.
How we told my husband’s parents:
My in-laws live locally so we are easily able to see them in person but my parents live about a 5 1/2 hour drive away from us which means if we go for a visit we need at least a weekend to do so (a day trip is not generally a reasonable possibility). We didn’t want to tell my in-laws and then have to wait weeks to tell my parents so we found a time that we could do it all on the same weekend.
Quite often when we go on road trips my in-laws will take care of our dog Watson for us while we are away. So we arranged to drop him off at their house on Friday night and told them that it was so we could get an early start on the road to my parent’s house Saturday morning. I had a doctors appointment Friday evening so my husband and I (and of course Watson) met up after that and headed over to my in-law’s house.
I had pre-purchased a little t-shirt from a shop on Etsy called zoeysattic that we were going to put on Watson that said “I’m going to be a big brother”. My husband and I agreed that after going in and talking to his parents for awhile I would excuse myself to take Watson out for a bathroom break walk before we headed home and on the way back in the house from the walk I would put the t-shirt on him and let him run back into the house since he always heads straight for either my mother or father in-law on the way in. So that’s what I did!
Watson ran up to my mother in-law first and her first reaction to reading the t-shirt was to ask if we were getting another dog to which my husband and I both just smiled and said no. Then she figured it out and was of course super excited, as was my father in-law once he caught on. The only other grandchild on my husbands side of the family was already 3 years old at the time and she lives about 3 hours away from us so they were so excited to finally have a grandchild who lives so close and that they can see all the time.
How we told my parents and brother:
As planned we headed to my parents house on Saturday and arrived a couple of hours before supper. What I had done for them was put together a little cellophane bag for each person (including my husband and I) made up of various layers of pink and red candies (since Valentine’s Day had just passed). I placed a fortune cookie on top of the last layer of each bag and sealed the bags with ribbon. I had used tweezers to remove the fortunes from each cookie and replaced them with custom fortunes I had made. For example, my families fortunes said “I can’t wait to meet you in fall of 2014 (Grandma, Grandpa or Uncle)”, depending on who that particular fortune cookie was for. I placed various heart stickers on the back of each bag so I could remember which bag was supposed to go to who when the time came since they all looked the same otherwise.
Our plan was to tell them the news right after supper. I handed the bags out when it was time for dessert and to keep them from suspecting something weird was going on I just told them that I had bought these from someone at work whose child was selling them to raise money for a sports team of some sort. They just bought my story without really asking any questions.
My mother was at the kitchen sink doing dishes and cleaning up from supper and my father, my husband and myself were sitting around the kitchen table talking (my brother wasn’t home yet). To get things going my husband and I started opening our candy bags and took out the fortune cookies to crack them open so that hopefully my father would do the same. Once we read out our fortunes which were just the ones that originally came in our cookies my father started to open his. He read it a few times to himself and finally caught on to what his fortune meant and got a big smile on his face and looked at us and just winked since my mother hadn’t opened hers up yet (she was still busy with the dishes). He asked her to come and sit down and open her fortune cookie but she was focused on her work and resisted so he was persistent and said well at least come over here and read my fortune. She was finally like “ok ok fine” and came over and read his fortune. She immediately caught on and got VERY excited. My mother has been begging for grandchildren literally since the day we got married so this had also been a very long time coming for her.
When my brother eventually got home we were all still sitting around the table and had his candy bag set out on his place setting so he sat down and immediately started opening it to get at the candy. We didn’t have to prompt him to open his fortune cookie, he just went for it. He also caught on right away and was very happy and excited. He was really looking forward to being an uncle.
How we told my husband’s siblings:
We drove home from my parents house the next day (Sunday) and when we got home we thought we better get right at it and send out an announcement to my husband’s siblings who unfortunately all live many hours away from us. We decided to email them the picture you see above with the two hands together in the shape of a heart. The date in the centre was my original due date and we also actually had put in the bottom right hand corner of the picture “R.S.V.P and our phone number”.
My husband has 4 siblings and within a few minutes of sending the email we started getting group email responses and phone calls with essentially the same exclamation of “Does this mean what I think it does?!!”. They were all so excited to hear the news that there would be a new addition to the family very soon.
So that is how we made the announcement to our families. We waited until I was officially out of the first trimester to tell the rest of our extended family and friends, although I am pretty sure our mothers snuck in telling a few Aunties before they were supposed to. All in all it was a great, happy and exciting experience for us and the only thing I would have changed was maybe somehow getting the family reactions on film.
I will leave it at that for this one. I hope you enjoyed the story of how we announced my pregnancy to our families and come back again soon to check out the story of my actual pregnancy, premature emergency c-section delivery at 27 weeks after I became gravely ill, NICU experience and experience of bringing home a premature baby.
If you are interested you can also check out my Youtube channel for the video version of this story as well as the rest of my baby story.
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